One of the greatest bits of advice I have been given over the years in regards to my psychic abilities is to never expect your information to be validated. It is humorous that I completely forgot who told me this advice, specifically. I do know it was a well-known psychic, but I cannot for the life of me remember which one.

I have had people obsess over researching what I and other psychics have said in sessions. They check local records, land ownership paperwork, genealogy information, and court records. They want so badly to find some minute detail proving what the psychic said was true.

That is fine, do what you like, but in my opinion – it doesn’t seem worth it. You either believe or you don’t. All you are doing is trying to find faults in something that was never meant to be an exact science.

The reason I say this is because I had a family member growing up that was a bit obsessed with validating any information received from spirits. Whether it was received by me or another psychic, it didn’t matter. This person visited them compulsively, what a joy it was for them to find one resided in their very own family! After every session they would tirelessly research, compiling anything that sounded remotely close. After all that work, they never seemed satisfied with their findings, so they would bring it to me for validation or excitement – But I never gave a damn what they found. My indifference would drive this person crazy. I finally had to sit them down and say that I didn’t need my information validated, I believe in it, it just was. They asked me how I could be so certain, “When you see spirits every day, all your life, you learn to just except what/who they are, and the messages they give.” The family member was so baffled by this, they sat back thinking hard, then turned to me seemingly impressed with what I had said. They patted me on the shoulder and said condescendingly, “That’s it, you stick to it. It is good to show that you have confidence.” …sigh…

I get it, I really do. They needed that connection to the tangible, if you don’t see it every day of course you need some form or another to visualize the results.

For me, it is a matter of confidence. If I do not believe in myself and the messages I receive, then what is the point of receiving them?

So – my advice? When going to visit a psychic, try to be open minded and really sit down and think about the purpose of this sessions. For example, why have you decided to go to a psychic?

Here is some food for thought, to help you save some money;

• Do you genuinely want to hear the message, even if it is hard?
  – Like I said, go in open-minded, take what messages you hear and understand that those were what was meant for you at this time. Sometimes the things you need to hear aren’t always easy to hear.
• Do you feel guilty for something that happened between you and the deceased?
  – Guilt, when it comes to the deceased, is futile and will only hurt you in the long run. Let yourself have a break, you are only human.
• Is there something you hope to accomplish in your session?
  – Leave your expectations at the door. Nine times out of ten, the thing you want to hear is not what you will hear when talking to your passed loved one. Chances are, if you had a good relationship with them, that is all that they will remember.
• Are you a skeptic and want to test a person’s abilities?
  – Stop. Don’t be rude. We don’t come into your home and test your knowledge on how the TV’s inner workings give you the images and information you receive. We don’t sit you down in your private sanctuary and question whether or not the flickering lights on the Computer screen is real or if it’s some figment of your imagination.
• Do you want someone to talk to about death because everyone in your life is weird-ed out by it?
  – Come on in, we can talk all you want. Curiosity is a good thing. I am open minded, I am a safe and private environment to talk about these things. But the moment the conversation turns depressed or suicidal, I will urge you to go talk to a professional. Helping you is my number one priority.

I hope this helped you in some way. Feel free to ask me any questions you like about the process and I will do my best to describe things to you.