Being confident in your abilities is based quite simply on trust. You must trust yourself.
All of those inspirational sayings you see day-to-day about loving yourself and being good to yourself – those apply here. You have to be your own best friend. It takes daily conscious effort and work.
If you want to know how I am my own best friend, here are some rules I try to live by:
- Stop saying sorry for your feelings.
- Tell yourself you are beautiful at least once a day.
- Be proud of yourself.
- A moderate amount of vanity is encouraged.
- Never lie to yourself.
- Having emotions does not mean you are broken.
- Don’t keep negative people around you.
- You don’t have to defend yourself, to anyone.
- Have a 3 strike rule: Give people 3 chances to fuck up, if they show no remorse and do not try to fix things in a positive way, cut them loose.
- Having standards does NOT make you high maintenance.
- Give yourself time in the day for yourself. No, it is not selfish.
- Let yourself be vulnerable sometimes.
- Do kind acts and get no recognition for it.
- Don’t be too serious; be sure to laugh at yourself sometimes.
- Give yourself unconditional love.
- Tell yourself you are smart at least once a day.
- Fuck up, learn from it, and let it go.
- You do have a choice.
- Fight for the good things in life.
- Always celebrate small victories.
- Make your own ‘normal’.
For a long time I thought that if I just had a bit more confidence, my abilities would be easier to manage. I have found that it has more to do with confidence in you – as an entire entity.
If you think about it, confidence is a perceived thing. If you know a fact or feeling to be true with all certainty, “right” or “wrong” is subjective. Oftentimes stubbornness can be confused as confidence. They are not one in the same. Be mindful of that.
The metaphysical world is not about factual timelines and high definition picture-like descriptions. It’s messy and emotional. The confidence comes from the understanding that everyone will see it differently, so how are you wrong?
Did you know that spirits can appear in any form they want to? Some of them make themselves look like huge monsters, when they were actually small and frail in their physical lives. Some spirits get trapped in a self-loathing spiral that transcends past their death and into the afterlife, causing them to become something other-worldly and grotesque. Some spirits are so evil that they take on forms that purposely scare you, purely for sick satisfaction or manipulation.
On a lighter note, some spirits will present themselves in a form that is non-threatening in order to keep you feeling safe and calm. Once a protective spirit appeared as Santa, because it knew the form would make children feel comfortable. Some spirits will come across as angelesque and some choose forms of animals, all to promote comfort. Altering their appearance is important when helping us in times of need.
It is all about the true nature of their soul, how they see themselves, and how they wish to affect their surroundings.
The point is that being a psychic is just who I am, whether or not people accepted my advice or visions as truth does not effect that fact. To this day, I am still amazed with how much my information connects with others. Put yourself and your intuitions out there, I guarantee you will be pleasantly surprised.
The confidence I strive to build in my life is for my own benefit. It is merely a bonus if it also helps other aspects of my life. My faith in what I see and what I feel is unwavering. I want to help others in any way I can, but I will never neglect myself and I will never question what I see. It is what it is.
Go with light and love.