Seeing a doctor about mental health is normal and it doesn’t mean you have failed.

This subject is very close to my heart. Being a person with a genetic disposition regarding high levels of anxiety, it is important that I promote and advocate the benefits of seeking help with mental health.

Being a person that is sensitive to others emotions and all the energies around me can be very debilitating. The ability to handle the stress and fatigue that comes from feeling everything so deeply is a struggle. Having the strength to admit that you need help to control your own reactions to others emotions says something great about you. You are willing to take responsibility for your own life and how you perceive your reality. Be proud of who you are and never be ashamed of needing help.

Anxiety can come from nowhere and everywhere. There is no way you can tell when it will happen, you just have to be able to roll with the punches. We may be able to recognize our “triggers”, but it doesn’t make the process any less scary. My most used phrase when I am having a hard day is, “This is not permanent, everything passes, soon you will feel better.” Some days I need to tell myself this over and over, and some days I don’t even need to be reminded of it. That is anxiety for you – Always keeping you on your toes.

From an intuitive and psychic perspective, I have chosen to never tell my doctors about my abilities. Never. It doesn’t matter to me if they are spiritually open-minded, it is my business. I have a firm belief that this is the main way I have avoided people trying to send me off to hospitals for “seeing dead people”. To this day, no one has ever tried to put me away or call me crazy because of the things I see. I count myself exceedingly lucky in this way, but I sure don’t want to go around testing the theory.

One important thing I have learned throughout my life is no matter how hard things get, never let someone take away your vulnerability or your hope. You are allowed to keep those qualities about yourself. So many parts of our society tells us that putting ourselves out there and having faith in happiness is a pipe dream, or is it ruled as foolish. I do not agree. Be proud of your ability to see life in the way you do. “Misery loves company.” Which I will tell you is so ridiculously true. People will seek out your innocence and try to tear it apart just so they can have a friend to hate the world with.

In my past I allowed negativity to invade my life in a multitude of ways. I allowed it to overtake my life, I allowed myself to believe that I could help change these patterns in others, I take responsibility for that part of my life, but it will never invite the darkness in again. The things I held onto throughout that time was my ability to hope for better and to continue to see the world through innocent eyes.

Have you ever watched a child discover the world? It is a magical thing to see. That wonder and amazement is pure and untouched. I love to witness it because it reminds me to also see the world for its simplicities.

Seeing the world for its happiness is hard to do at times and you have to know that being sad or upset is OK. There is nothing wrong with feeling emotions, even the negative ones. The trick is to allow yourself to feel them, but keep yourself from going to deep into the abyss. I have a few tricks that I remind myself consciously on a day to day basis:

• Always give others the benefit of the doubt.
• You don’t always have to have an answer for everything.
• You are not responsible for others happiness.
• Others failures are not a reflection of you.
• Everyone fails; don’t let anyone make you feel badly for trying.
• Create distinct boundaries of how you allow yourself to be treated.
• If someone repeatedly disrespects you, they do not deserve your extra effort.
• People are lost in their own world and will forget to see you as a human being, try not to hold that against them.
• Kindness goes so much farther than indignation.
• It is OK to ask a friend to hang out with you when you are sad; a good friend will – without making you feel shitty about it.
• Give yourself fully and encourage others to give themselves fully as well, no matter how scary it is. You may get let down, but you may just find something amazing.
• No holding back; be honest with your feelings.
• You have a right to be here!!
• You are not a burden.
• Bad treatment from others is not something you deserve and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
• You are NOT “asking for it”, unless you are literally asking for that specific thing.
• Let your friends inside your comfort zone, even if it terrifies you.
• Test your inner fears every so often. One day you may find that they don’t control you like they once did.
• Be self-aware, be humble, and try not to throw stones in glass houses.

 

I would like to note that the things I say in this blog are all based on things I, personally, liked to hear or wanted someone to say to me when I was in a vulnerable state. I can only hope that some of the things I chat about on here can help you, but above all I want you to know that if you are having a hard time, please seek out a specialist.

In case anyone needs help, there are many anonymous resources that you may find helpful.

Go with light and love.

 

 

Everyone has spirit guides. Even if you are the furthest thing away from intuitive, you have spirit guides. They are essentially your spiritual advocate. They protect you, they look out for you, and they are the little ray of hope that burns deep within you when you feel like all is lost. You know that feeling you get when you have a close call? That moment of, “Oh shit, that could have been really bad. Whoa, that was lucky.” Yeah, that is them. That is your spirit-bro (gender neutral use of bro, of course) looking out for you.

If you are wondering, “Hey, but I have had a really long unlucky streak lately; does that mean I don’t have a spirit guide?” NO. You have (at least) one and they are tired of looking out for your clumsy ass. Maybe you should try being a bit more aware of your surroundings? I mean this with love, of course. But, come on, they cannot prioritize making sure you don’t spill your fifth cup of coffee. At some point you have to learn for yourself. Plus, while you were spilling that fifth cup of Joe, maybe they were preventing you from accidentally stepping in front of a car that ran a red light. You just never know.

For people who feel they do not have intuition or for people who don’t ‘see’ spirits, your guides show themselves to you when your guard is down. Like during sleep, when sick, or when you have traumatic experiences. You will know it is them because they will feel familiar. Their face may not be recognizable but you will feel like you go way back, maybe in another life. That feeling is because they are around you all the time; you just don’t consciously know it.

When it comes to me seeing my own spirit guides, that isn’t a problem at all. They are mine, so they look out for me and help me decipher the crazy spirit stuff I see on a regular basis. It is completely different when it comes to others spirit guides. It can take time for them to trust me; it takes time to form a relationship and a bond. Once that trust is established I can speak freely to them and them to me.

I currently have two spirit guides. One is my grandfather that passed away a couple years ago and he tends to be around for moral support. My second one is named Keith and he is my translator – of sorts – when it comes to the spirit world.

Keith came to me in a bar. (Yes, a bar.) He is tall, bald, bearded, dressed in leather, and is covered from the neck down in tattoos. He had a hard life when he was living, got involved in drugs and violence, but managed to get his life somewhat in order before he passed suddenly in his 40’s. He talks of a teenager he regrets leaving behind and life wasted focusing on anger. I was having lunch with family in a local bar that was frequented by bikers and he approached me out of the blue. When I went home, he followed me there, but stayed a safe distance away as not to scare me. He protected my home for 3 days before I invited him in. He would only stay for a few minutes then he would excuse himself and keep guard right outside the property line of my home. He was incredibly respectful of my space. Then a few weeks later he asked if he could stay with me and be my guide. I agreed.

Up until this point I had only ever had ancestors or family spirits around me. Having a guide was something I had never dealt with before. The beauty of Keith was that he was so conscious of boundaries that I never had to lay them out. When my grandfather passed away, Keith gave me room to grieve and kept his distance so that my grandfather wouldn’t be put off by his appearance. To most, Keith’s appearance isn’t all that welcoming. Once time passed and my grandfather’s spirit adapted to the change of perceived appearances in that realm of existence, he accepted Keith as the Viking-like protector that I love and need. One spirit guide became two.

As a side note; spirit guides are different spiritual beings than Angels. Spirit guides do all the grunt work, while Angels show up when something life-altering and tragic happens. There is a hierarchy amongst them that I can only begin to wrap my head around. It is complicated and at this point, I simply roll with it. I don’t even try to pretend I know how the system works. I stick to my rule that whatever comes to me with no malice, I welcome with open arms.

People also have spirit guides that prefer animal form. These are your totems and spirit animals. Some can communicate with theirs and for some reason it seems easier to talk to spirit animals. The animal form they come to you in is also very important too. There is a lot of meaning behind the symbolism of that particular animal form – if you look it up online it could give you an insight of their role they provide for you. Your spirit guide may just be a family animal that you once cared for in life, or it could be a spirit that chose to take care of you. Their shape or animal form may also change with time. We all have one or two animals that we seem drawn to and that would be the reason. Even if you can’t consciously see their form, you sense them, and therefore unknowingly feel the desire to be close to that form in life.

There are several animals running around my home, which I often confuse with my living cat. This is very confusing when you think you saw your cat lounging on your bed but then enter another room to find it fast asleep on the couch. It gives me a good laugh now and then.

If you have any questions about anything regarding the topics in this post feel free to email me at yugenexistence@gmail.com.

Go with light and love.

A common misconception about psychics is that we can see everything that will happen in the future. That is not the case and we definitely cannot foresee everything. Could you imagine if you had glasses like the Terminator had? You know – the ones that scanned everyone you came across and told you facts about them. Psychics don’t have that, but seriously, wouldn’t that be nuts?

I have equated my ability to a radio signal a few times before and it is very much that way most of the time. Sometimes the tuning is perfect and sometimes it just will not connect. It fuzzes in and out as you concentrate with all your might on that dial, trying to get the tuning just so. All the while you catch little snippets of conversation through the fuzz, but without context it is hard to make sense of it.

There are many ways I get an increase in signal and here a few of the circumstances:

• If I am well-rested, low stress, happy, and very little distractions; then my ‘tuner’ is clear as a bell. BUT, it also depends if the spirits actually want to communicate too!
• If I am sick, highly stressed, overexposed to electronics, tired, and have no down time; then my signal is sporadic and uncontrollable. Which makes the good and bad spirits come through whenever they deem necessary. That can get downright frustrating and scary at times.
• Thunderstorms and snow increase my signal because it ionizes the air. In that case the electricity can travel easier, this charges the surrounding area, allowing the spirits greater resources to increase their strength. Greater strength means easily breaking down my protective boundaries, allowing them to approach me more freely.
• The more comfortable my surroundings, the more spirits I see. My protections tend to decrease when I am with people that I trust. Which makes the Vail between myself and the spirit world become thin.
• Another thing that causes fluctuations in my abilities is hormone balances or imbalances. I will spare you the details, but I am female (obviously) and when my hormones are heightened it makes me extra sensitive to my surroundings. My body is going through a complicated and tiresome process, which leaves me a bit vulnerable to outside influences.

The hard truth about being a psychic is that it is, and always will be, a crap-shoot. There is no rhyme or reason to it. You can’t control it and anyone who says they can is most likely trying to convince themselves. I would love to meet a psychic that could actually get information in detail at will. Please hook me up with someone who claims to be able to, because I would love to pick their brain!

Go with light and love.

Shielding is a wonderful thing that we all naturally do. It is what indicates our personal space around our body, creating our very own comfort zone. The outer most rim of that comfort zone is your shield, the positive energy you hold near and around you fuels this protective bubble, making it stronger.

A very important thing to remember is the bigger the shield does not in fact make it better. If anything, it makes you tired and weak. It also distances you from the people you love and keep close, which will also weaken your energies. Over the weekend I went to a workshop about this exact subject. A sweet woman taught me an extremely useful exercise on how to strengthen shields and draw it closer to the body in order to preserve energy.

Close your eyes and allow your body to relax. Let all your frustrations go, you will worry about them later. Find a happy memory, the kind that brings you utter and complete joy, it should warm your heart and give you a sense of awe. It may even be a little bitter-sweet, but that does not matter, it is your memory. Let it fill your mind and body with warmth. When you have allowed yourself to bathe in the joy that it brings you – bring your bubble into your forethought, allow it close to your physical body and let the joy of that memory soak through you and into your bubble. Stay in that feeling for many minutes or as long as you need. Then once you are ready, open your eyes.

Your shield will be much stronger and resilient to outside influences. You will find yourself less drained and more willing to get physically close to others, allow yourself to feel that comfort. I hope this exercise helps you as much as it did me. You can repeat it as often as you need.

Remember that you will also have trouble blocking outside energies when you are healing. If you had a really busy event that had lots of stressors, keep in mind that you will need time to heal yourself from that. If you also have had some sort of recent physical injury, your body will need time to get back up to full strength. The physical body will focus your energies to the place in need; this will leave the rest of you vulnerable. You must take gentle care of yourself. Lighter workouts, more sleep, vitamins, sea salt or Epsom salt baths, extra comfort for your body (comfy clothing, thick socks, nothing constricting, no footwear that causes stress on your joints), and if you can – request extra care from your significant other.

You MUST give yourself time to process the things you handle in your life. Anything that gives you stress will need time for you to mentally break it down and make sense of it.

Watch out for insecure people when you are in a vulnerable state. There are certain types of people that can sense when you have your guard down. They will take that opportunity to push your buttons and go for your sensitive spots.

Don’t let those people get to you. What I mean by that is, once you realize what is happening, extract yourself from the situation and forgive yourself for not seeing it sooner. And for the love of all things, do not blame yourself for “allowing” it to happen. You are human. Even the strongest people have vulnerabilities, and having those vulnerabilities are important when keeping balanced.

Have you ever gone on a vacation – had a wonderful, relaxing, rejuvenating time – and when you come home you notice that every person seems to be out to yell at you? You are not crazy or paranoid. What you don’t realize is that while you were off relaxing, your natural protection had dropped. You were in a calm and relaxed state of mind for long enough that your body compensated by rerouting the protective energy into healing energy. There are individuals out there that crave that relaxed energy and won’t even know they are actively draining it right out of you. They are trying to balance out their own energies and in doing so, allowing their negativity to seep into you. They don’t mean any harm, but they will accomplish it if you don’t protect yourself. Just remember your energy bubble and the warmth it gives you. Be mindful of your vulnerabilities when you are relaxed.

All in all, I am very sorry to tell you that there is no magic pill or instant fix to keep from absorbing energies around you. BUT I will tell you, there is something vastly better and so much stronger than any pill you could ever find to help combat the shit we encounter. You. Yeah, I said it. You own this shit. You are the master of your own fate; you decide how you feel or how you react to those feelings. You can take responsibility for your own life and do something about it. You don’t have to put up with any abuse or mistreatment. Put your boundaries up and don’t forget to do the most important part – LET IT GO. I say this with love (…and possibly to the hum of the Frozen song). Try not to hang on to negative thoughts for too long. Life has a way of moving on whether we want it to or not, but putting your faith into the knowledge that things have a way of working out all by themselves, should help you realize that you can only do so much. You can only give so much of yourself.

Go with light and love.