Seeing a doctor about mental health is normal and it doesn’t mean you have failed.

This subject is very close to my heart. Being a person with a genetic disposition regarding high levels of anxiety, it is important that I promote and advocate the benefits of seeking help with mental health.

Being a person that is sensitive to others emotions and all the energies around me can be very debilitating. The ability to handle the stress and fatigue that comes from feeling everything so deeply is a struggle. Having the strength to admit that you need help to control your own reactions to others emotions says something great about you. You are willing to take responsibility for your own life and how you perceive your reality. Be proud of who you are and never be ashamed of needing help.

Anxiety can come from nowhere and everywhere. There is no way you can tell when it will happen, you just have to be able to roll with the punches. We may be able to recognize our “triggers”, but it doesn’t make the process any less scary. My most used phrase when I am having a hard day is, “This is not permanent, everything passes, soon you will feel better.” Some days I need to tell myself this over and over, and some days I don’t even need to be reminded of it. That is anxiety for you – Always keeping you on your toes.

From an intuitive and psychic perspective, I have chosen to never tell my doctors about my abilities. Never. It doesn’t matter to me if they are spiritually open-minded, it is my business. I have a firm belief that this is the main way I have avoided people trying to send me off to hospitals for “seeing dead people”. To this day, no one has ever tried to put me away or call me crazy because of the things I see. I count myself exceedingly lucky in this way, but I sure don’t want to go around testing the theory.

One important thing I have learned throughout my life is no matter how hard things get, never let someone take away your vulnerability or your hope. You are allowed to keep those qualities about yourself. So many parts of our society tells us that putting ourselves out there and having faith in happiness is a pipe dream, or is it ruled as foolish. I do not agree. Be proud of your ability to see life in the way you do. “Misery loves company.” Which I will tell you is so ridiculously true. People will seek out your innocence and try to tear it apart just so they can have a friend to hate the world with.

In my past I allowed negativity to invade my life in a multitude of ways. I allowed it to overtake my life, I allowed myself to believe that I could help change these patterns in others, I take responsibility for that part of my life, but it will never invite the darkness in again. The things I held onto throughout that time was my ability to hope for better and to continue to see the world through innocent eyes.

Have you ever watched a child discover the world? It is a magical thing to see. That wonder and amazement is pure and untouched. I love to witness it because it reminds me to also see the world for its simplicities.

Seeing the world for its happiness is hard to do at times and you have to know that being sad or upset is OK. There is nothing wrong with feeling emotions, even the negative ones. The trick is to allow yourself to feel them, but keep yourself from going to deep into the abyss. I have a few tricks that I remind myself consciously on a day to day basis:

• Always give others the benefit of the doubt.
• You don’t always have to have an answer for everything.
• You are not responsible for others happiness.
• Others failures are not a reflection of you.
• Everyone fails; don’t let anyone make you feel badly for trying.
• Create distinct boundaries of how you allow yourself to be treated.
• If someone repeatedly disrespects you, they do not deserve your extra effort.
• People are lost in their own world and will forget to see you as a human being, try not to hold that against them.
• Kindness goes so much farther than indignation.
• It is OK to ask a friend to hang out with you when you are sad; a good friend will – without making you feel shitty about it.
• Give yourself fully and encourage others to give themselves fully as well, no matter how scary it is. You may get let down, but you may just find something amazing.
• No holding back; be honest with your feelings.
• You have a right to be here!!
• You are not a burden.
• Bad treatment from others is not something you deserve and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
• You are NOT “asking for it”, unless you are literally asking for that specific thing.
• Let your friends inside your comfort zone, even if it terrifies you.
• Test your inner fears every so often. One day you may find that they don’t control you like they once did.
• Be self-aware, be humble, and try not to throw stones in glass houses.

 

I would like to note that the things I say in this blog are all based on things I, personally, liked to hear or wanted someone to say to me when I was in a vulnerable state. I can only hope that some of the things I chat about on here can help you, but above all I want you to know that if you are having a hard time, please seek out a specialist.

In case anyone needs help, there are many anonymous resources that you may find helpful.

Go with light and love.